Three years ago my husband and I decided to take in a girl, and her three children. At the time we were thinking that perhaps this could work out to be a poly relationship as she already had a Dominant, and they were in need of assistance. A few months after she moved out with us, she felt that her Dominant was not working out, and asked my husband if he would be willing to take her on as his submissive.

Three years later, he continued to get frustrated because she wasn’t seeming to be compatible with what he wanted. Needless to say, I was the one in the background giving advice on what could work better for her, in order for us to keep her in the family. Also, we fell in love with her three children which tends to make decision making a little more touchy.

We had moved into a three bedroom house, and another part of our kink family moved in with us. I say part of our kink family because even though they are another Dom and two submissives, they are a big part of our lives. Just to clarify. So now we have 9 people including three children who all live together and things get a little hairy now and again. Figuratively speaking. I find it interesting just how many people are bi-polar and have ADD or ADHD. I never understood the challenges until now…

Anyhow, things didn’t work out so well for my husband and this girl, but in an effort to not disrupt things, I offered to continue to guide her. Now, I am not a Dominant, but I have strict rules on how our house is run for my Daddy. Rules in which those that serve within our home obviously have to follow. But things have really been rocky as our girl just doesn’t seem to feel the same way that I, and other submissives feel about serving. She is more like a dependent than having a submissive. I didn’t understand nor see this at all until my Daddy gave me examples of how differently we react to things, like if I am told that I am not allowed to have something or do something.. To me, what ever it is that I am not allowed is gone, until my Daddy or Master wishes differently. To her, she would question why, and in some cases the rule would be assumed as a punishment, or just something that is meant for that day. So there is a big difference in the mindset. This blew me away, and made me really confused on how to work with her.

Today, we had a talk about this, and it was hard because in an essence, I am deciding to not be the one who guides her any longer. But what we decided after mulling things over was that we are good as a family. Before we used to serve our home together, we had times where we would play and color, as well as movie times, and crafting times. She had another Dom who instructed her on her submissive duties. So this is what we are going to try to do again.

Can a slave have her own submissive or slave.. yes. But this girl is not one that will. I got so wrapped up in keeping on top of her, the kids, the house, and school full time.. that I slacked in taking care of my Daddy and Master, and myself. I even stopped writing again, which is not good for me at all. Time to recover and refocus.

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